Jessica Rocha's kids steal, bully, and she wants them to wear T-shirts to school admitting it

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Photos, video below.
Those of us forced to -- make that "allowed to"! -- read Nathaniel Hawthorne's The Scarlet Letter in school tend to come away from the experience with disgust for the way society makes heroine Hester Prynne wear the sin of adultery on her clothes in the form of a red letter "A."

Probably not Jessica Rocha, though. The Fort Morgan mom believes the best way to get her two kids to stop bullying and/or stealing is to make them wear T-shirts to school announcing their crimes. Photos, video and details below.

The story comes to us from 9News, and although the report doesn't reveal how the tip came to the station, Rocha is the most likely source -- suggesting that she not only feels aggrieved at objections to her technique, but thinks the average viewer will see what she's doing as a brilliant and innovative example of tough love.

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Jessica Rocha.
Is she right? You be the judge.

Rocha's parenting is focused on her fiancé's eight-year-old daughter, Aurora, and her own nine-year-old son, Xavier: The station isn't revealing their last names, which are different from Rocha's, in an effort to prevent them from being targeted by Internet searches.

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Xavier.
Aurora, above, is seen on camera, and can be heard parroting her future stepmom's philosophy, Xavier refused to cooperate. He's represented by the photo to the left.

We predict he'll look back on this decision with pride in future years -- maybe during intensive psychiatric sessions.

According to Rocha, Aurora is a thief, having stolen from Walmart, a neighbor, a friend's house and mom's purse. Xavier, for his part, has allegedly been aggressive since he was a first-grader, bullying other kids, back-talking teachers and generally being a pain.

To adjust this behavior, Rocha says she's tried a slew of different approaches, including taking away privileges and extra-curricular activities. Then, at her wit's end, she hit on the T-shirt idea. The front of the one she made for Aurora features the scrawl, "I steal. Steal means taking property belonging to someone else without permission." Here's a look at it:

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The back, meanwhile, sports the words, "I steal. Please watch me."

Which sounds like an invitation to pedophiles and creepazoids to us. Just sayin'.

The plan called for Xavier to get a T-shirt of his own, but with a bullying message. However, things got more complicated when the principal of Green Acres Elementary made Aurora cover up the shirt when she wore it to school, and now, the school district has nixed the apparel or anything like it.

"I respect her right to do what's best for her family," Fort Morgan Schools superintendent Ron Echols told the station in a statement. "But I wish she would leave the school out of it. We cannot support something that is demeaning to the kids."

In Rocha's view, that's ridiculous. "I don't think a T-shirt is harming my child at all," she says.

We should know for certain in a decade or two -- and maybe sooner. Here's the 9News report.

More from our Education archive: "Denver police and DPS agree: No more tickets for bad language, minor scuffles."

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45 comments
carlray
carlray

I personally would use a belt on them i beleave in the belt it works if used only as a last resort not to use it ever time but the problem is cops get called and parents get in truble its not abuse to spank your kid if you have to especially if everything else fails i find the T Shirt idea a interesting idea personally i wouldn't use it but at least she is trying to think of what to do to solve the problems

Moonstuck
Moonstuck

 You know what? I don't give a FUCK what the principal wants, that's freedom of speech and expression, as long as there's no vulgar language on the shirts. If he tries to stop them wearing those, HE IS BREAKING THE LAW. That woman is DAMN RIGHT for what she's doing, she has every right, and that's good fucking parenting right there. Those little assholes brought this on themselves for being bullies. 

I say send the little assholes to school in the shirts again, and threaten to sue if the principal gets in the way again. Also, contact the board of education about this.

nicci6989
nicci6989

Yep and when the kids get in trouble it falls all on the parents...the school treats you like a bad parent who isn't trying..yet by law we are supposed to let them have our kids in school yet they won't help out......yeah nice have had it happen to me. When my son was in kindergarten he was acting out so he got grounded to his room we talked to the teacher,who was constantly calling us,that for the week he was grounded he was to sit out of recess or she could have him walk around the playground/gym instead of playing,yeah she didn't enforce it...I was just floored I told her to stop calling then if. She wasn't going to help. He settled though.

Gene Duran
Gene Duran

Kids now days are becoming such smart asses. You can't spank them. They want to turn you into the Cops, and the are abusing that !

frommommy
frommommy

It's ok to steal this little girl, but not ok when she repeats the behavior that took her from her natural parents.

Chrissy Burgell
Chrissy Burgell

I would hope that a special education teacher would use better grammar, Liv Marie Rahim. Shaming children isn't the answer. There are obviously problems at home that need to be addressed instead of punishment. There is a difference between discipline and punishment. When you are disciplined, you learn something. This is a punishment. The little girl only stopped stealing because she was publicly heckled and made fun of. Not only by the other kids at school, but worst of all, her mother. It seems like dad isn't in the picture, so when you are your child's sole caregiver, they are going to trust you implicitly. Doing things like this breaks that delicate trust and bond. This mom should read a few peaceful parenting books if she wants to be on speaking terms with her kids in 15 years. http://www.amazon.com/Unconditional-Parenting-Moving-Rewards-Punishments/dp/0743487486/ref=la_B001IGHN82_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1363205175&sr=1-1

Michelle Pearl Mobley
Michelle Pearl Mobley

If they wear this to school, it will become a fashion statement and all the little bastards will want a t-shirt like that.

Steven M Palmer
Steven M Palmer

Good. One set of kids down, 1,000,000 sets of unruly children to go...

Sarah M. Coignard
Sarah M. Coignard

Solve the problem is making them wear embarrassing t-shirts?! Uh, solving the problem would be to get these kids some professional help, obviously there is something deeper going on for them to be so young and have such issues

Scott R. Shriver
Scott R. Shriver

This is not parenting. Punish in private... Praise in public.

Sheilah Davis
Sheilah Davis

I applaud her for trying to solve the problem but some would see the shirt as a label; sometimes kids grow into their labels. Petty theft can grow more serious. Has she tried to isolate the role model for her kids and limit their exposure to that person? Has she tried therapy? They are kids. They can change.

Cody Truesdale
Cody Truesdale

Who knows? Maybe she could start a new fashion trend...

Lori Baird
Lori Baird

What can SHE do as a parent to teach them values? A t-shirt won't solve the problem...other consequences for their behavior will...how about some community service? I think some changes need to be made at home too...

Sandra Bell
Sandra Bell

I'd make them hold a sign on the side of the road

Megan Wakeman
Megan Wakeman

...pretty sure everyone responding to the story has read the story.

Stacey Rogers
Stacey Rogers

Kevin, actually, by holding them accountable for their action, she WINS at parenting! We cannot control our children's choices/actions, but we can teach repercussions for them, which is what she is doing.

Jose Phine Klemaier
Jose Phine Klemaier

Unsolicited statement of the obvious: That headline is slightly ambiguous. Read the story first before jumping to conclusions.

Megan Wakeman
Megan Wakeman

If these were my children they would have more to deal with then wearing a t-shirt. Bullying and disrespecting others is something a child should have learned is wrong LONG before the age of nine. Stealing from your own family and neighbors... wow. These kids are headed for major trouble with these behavioral issues at this young of an age. This really prompts me to question the parenting of these two kids.

Murray Madsen
Murray Madsen

Shaming children is never a good idea. Maybe she should look deeper into WHY they are stealing and bullying. Or better yet, maybe she should look in the mirror. Children learn most of their behavior at home!

Tracy Strode
Tracy Strode

Sounds like putting a Band-Aid on a massive gash of parenting-fail.

Kristina Gorman
Kristina Gorman

hate bullies , people need to teach their children some compassion and values , its lost ,

Legen Dairy
Legen Dairy

Way to GO Mom, and Sign them up for Juvenile Bootcamp to let them know where they will be headed.

Rev. B Baker
Rev. B Baker

dont the kids at school already know this? make them wear it to church!

Mitch Adams
Mitch Adams

make her wear a shirt that says "i'm a bitch"

iustitia_est_monstru
iustitia_est_monstru

@clockworkAngel The principal is well within his rights to tell children what they can and cannot wear to school. Some schools even have dress codes, if it were illegal any school with a dress code would be in hot water too. Every parent signs an agreement on such matters, children are required to conform to the codes of conduct for the school and principals and etc. are the moderators of those codes.

gryphon50
gryphon50

@clockworkAngel if she is such a good parent, why are her kids like this? Most bullies are first bullied at home!

nicci6989
nicci6989

@Chrissy Burgell yep training kids to behave through books has done wonders in the past 30 yrs.....stupid....PARENTING FOR DUMMIES....

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Sarah M. Coignard: Unless you're willing to foot the bill for "some professional help" close your mouth.

BackOffImStarving
BackOffImStarving topcommenter

@Sheilah Davis Maybe you should try some of that pseudo-science hypnosis BS you learned at Regis.

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Stacey Rogers: Holding children accountable for their actions is now considered child abuse.

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Merhia Madsen Wiese: Shaming children is never a good idea ? Remember that kid in the Phillipines that got caned ?? Betcha he hasn't had so much as a parking ticket since. It's called fighting fire with fire.

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Tracy Strode: Seems the Band-Aid would work better over your mouth.

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Kevin Richards: How about a " I suck at thinking" shirt ?

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

@Mitch Adams: While were at it you should wear your own copy of the same shirt.

iustitia_est_monstru
iustitia_est_monstru

@gryphon50 @clockworkAngel Not really gryphon, thats an overstated simplification of a complex issue. For every "bully who was bullied at home" you have a sociopathic little monster with a sense of entitlement who's parents did not discipline him or her at all and they walk around thinking they own the world because mommy and daddy denied them nothing. 

SheilahT
SheilahT

@BackOffImStarving   Sorry, this is late BUT I should clear the air on the Regis comment. 

They don't teach hypnosis at Regis University.  You have to go to specialized schools to learn tools like hypnosis, and NLP. I received a master's degree in psychology at the school. 

If you had a degree in psychology, you'd understand that most psychology is pseudo-science (as you call it) .  The truth of the matter is that whatever works for each individual person is the tool that he or she should use.   

You would also know that the kind of punishment in this story will embarrass the child and lead to further issues down the road.

I recognize your name.  You're the fun troll that makes me wonder if you need food donations.  I'd miss you if you starved to death.  I'll have to come back at visit with you more often.  I probably won't go back to his story, you'll have to harass me the next time we cross paths.

Cheers!

bruceusa2086
bruceusa2086

@Justin_Khase and you commenting saying holding children accountable for their actions is considered child abuse is considered bad advice.

BackOffImStarving
BackOffImStarving topcommenter

@SheilahT I guess the entrance requirements for DeVry, I mean Regis, are really lax these days.  What, was a PhD in psychology too hard for you?  Ooh, you took some classes and wrote a paper.  Big whoop.  Go stare at some dangling pocket watches.  You're getttinggggg STUUUUUUUUPID.

Justin_Khase
Justin_Khase

I said is NOW considered child abuse. Anybody stupid enough to think that the concept of holding childern accountable for their actions is in any way, shape, form, or fashion child abuse better save up their money for bail or a pistol 'cause they'll need it later. at which time I'm sure you'll be sitting around on your ass talking about "the lack of discipline in todays' youth like the rest of your hypocritical ilk.

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