Turns out gay weddings are pretty much the same as straight weddings

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Chris Parente (left) and his partner, Jacob Pacheo participated in a mock wedding.
It's a consistent argument against gay marriage that it just ain't natural, that gays are in some way deviant and that to allow them to wed would be a corruption of the very fabric of society. The GLBT Wedding Preview Event at the Cable Center this weekend, though, seemed to indicate that gay weddings are not so different from the familiar straight ones. In fact, they're just as boring.

Westword's photo intern, Hunter Stevens, snapped photos of the occasion. Check out more images of the GLBT-friendly preview below.

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Summittfinancial
Summittfinancial

Is he really gay?  I mean, his partner looks more like a latino bull dyke than a gay dude.  C'mon Chris, you can do better than that!

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thomasab

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tim davids
tim davids

Gay weddings are more boring than straight weddings because it's harder for me to think about what it would be like to fuck the bride.

I don't get why everyone is mad about this. Heather/Hannah/white girl name didn't go to this but she also didn't blog about it. She wrote a paragraph intro-ing the pictures. Which are boring.

The gay ones moreso. My favorite kind of gay man is Lady Gaga, because he has those weird shoulders and he sleeps in an egg.

Heather Gardner
Heather Gardner

As the wedding planner for the Wedding Preview Event, I can without a doubt tell you that I, and the wedding vendors that were a part of this event, fully embrace the GLBT community which is why we wanted to showcase Chris & Jake. Yes, the ceremonies were a bit dry and this is usually what you get when you hire models instead of real-live couples to participate. However, Chris & Jake were very personal about their vows to each other and I am so thrilled that they participated.

Weddings are NOT boring - there are so many facets and angles that engaged couples can use to make their wedding personal and exciting. The Wedding Preview Event was a way to showcase different aspects of weddings in a short period of time.

For those of you that are not married nor have ever been married, I challenge you to step outside the box of a "traditional" wedding and make it your own - it's not as easy as it may seem and takes months of planning to create a special experience.

Ethienne
Ethienne

To those that missed the distinct point of the blog, go on, and have yourselves a fascinating, gripping, engrossing, interesting, intriguing, captivating, enthralling, compelling, spellbinding, mesmerizing, entrancing, enchanting, bewitching, charming, beguiling, delightful; absorbing, riveting, exciting, special, and never-boring hell of a wedding, reception, and life, as it seems you want everyone to believe all things gay are just that!

Brian1336
Brian1336

So the point is that you guys do an equally craptastic job covering gay weddings as straight ones? If you're not even gonna show up at the event, who the hell is the reporter to call it boring? I'm a fan of Chris, I'll admit, and I'd be pissed too.

Jake
Jake

I understood Hannah's attempt to conclude that same-sex weddings should be looked at as equal, in her thin line of giving it a traditional response, even when a same sex wedding may not be traditional (in this country).

It's clear that her approach though lacked effort and exemplifies her opinion. She is quite comfortable with under representing AND over looking the real value behind what this feature is and could have been.

Hannah, you did fail to successfully portray the intensions behind your message by barely having a message - other than your unfortunate last words, and what you clearly didn't mind expressing in the opening sentence. I, too, question the level of your seriousness when referring to same sex weddings as something negative and dull, which you're referring to jokingly by the way - which is not a joke. By the sound of it, I'm open to feeling that you may even be annoyed by same sex marriage being featured (which can also be supported by your absence at the event). You definitely missed the mark due to your lack of effort and direction - or did it?

Clever enough, the "article" seems shallow from not focusing on the many real and important messages this feature represents - which are meaningful, not boring (to say the least).

In a suggestion to the Westword for future reference, please make sure you assign stories to be featured by employees who are supportive of what they're 'reporting' on, especially if they are going to give an opinion. Their effort (or lack thereof) shows in the article.

Dan
Dan

Jeff Otte, Ethienne, Cole C, Jessi, you guys get it. Hannah Thomas very succintly portrayed a wisdom beyond her years. Gays are not better, nor worse, they are the same. They want and deserve what we all want and deserve, to love, to be loved. and to have someone to share our lives with.

BTW weddings ARE boring. Receptions are the fun part of the evening. The food and booze are free and except for the weddings Chris, Alexander, and Jason attend, everyone is in a good mood.

Jessi
Jessi

As someone who works with disadvantaged communities and whose sole job it is to promote social justice, I think that Ms. Thomas did a wonderful job equating gay/same-sex marriage to marriages between heterosexual couples. Part of being an ally is standing beside members of disadvantaged groups, not looking down on them or putting them on a pedestal. Supporting gay marriage is supporting marriage EQUALITY, thus not making distinctions between heterosexual and homosexual marriage. It seems to me that Ms. Thomas was highlighting her point by poking fun at weddings in general.

I understand why the couple whose wedding is featured takes offense to their wedding being called "boring." Surely no one wants that said about their wedding. However, if I were that couple, I would take more offense if Ms. Thomas had judged my wedding differently based on the fact that it was a same-sex wedding. It was obvious that Ms. Thomas was not claiming that this particular ceremony was boring, but just that it was like all other weddings which, in her opinion, are boring. She was trying to dispel the belief that same-sex weddings are "freaky," "scary," or any other negative adjective one can think of. It is counter-productive to call for equality and then, when it is received, complain about not being treated fair.

ColeC
ColeC

It's funny how people interpret things differently because I take this as Hannah putting us as equals with straight people. She is preaching equality in a very interesting way that is going to really get people to think "What is the big difference?"

Traci
Traci

As someone who actually attended the event, I take exception to the comment that the gay wedding was just as boring as the straight weddings. It's true, the two "straight" wedding performances were pretty dry, and the models seemed like they were reading the phone book rather than saying loving vows to one another, but when Chris and Jacob read their vows they were heartfelt and meaningful and very much the highlight of the event; hearing the crowd whoop and holler for them--not boring at all!

Michael
Michael

@ Chris (Parente, first commenter)... from this "fags" perspective, you're an ass. Jeff Ote totally summed it up.

Jason
Jason

Piss-poor blogging, even as blogging goes, Hannah. It sure as hell doesn't count as journalism. Why would you sign your name to something that you did not witness? You covered the who, what, where, and when, but your why and how are a shitty way of inserting your own opinion, which doesn't belong and is not even clear.

If, on the other hand, you wrote your five sentences as an attention getter/"opinion piece", then what they hell is your point? How about something to support it? And back to Square One, if you weren't there to witness things, how can you even say the event, and then gay weddings, are boring? That's a total non-sequitur, and would have earned me an F in any high school English class.

That all said as a fairly critical deconstruction of your mess, here's my opinion. Fuck off. If you were attempting to voice your support for gay weddings with your back-handed jab about their weddings being just as boring as heterosexual ones, you failed miserably, and I don't think they want your help. If your immaturity shows that bad in five sentences, I wouldn't even want you to write up my obituary.

Ethienne
Ethienne

The more I think about it, the more stupid it sounds that because someone is not present at an event they shouldn't comment, report, blog, whatever, about an event. That'd make Howard K. Smith, Dan Rather, Walter Cronkite, Roger Mudd, Barbara Walters, David Bloom, Erik Severeid, or any other TV news anchor, radio news host, newspaper writer, etc. wrong because they weren't at whatever event they commented on. You are being ridiculous.

Ethienne
Ethienne

If they aren't talking about you, whether good or bad, and particularly bad, you ain't doing nothing. Great job Hannah for getting this much attention for not being there! You may have started a new way of telecommuting-blogging, we'll call it absentee-telecom-blogging :) And yes, weddings are still boring.

Curiousgnate
Curiousgnate

you know what weddings can be boring or they can be fun. been to both. gay weddings are amazing in that they represent how far this country has come when it comes to bigotry. while much of the nation is still stuck in the past it is clear that things are changing for the better. I don't think the author of this piece meant to be homophobic, but most definitely should have chosen her words more carefully. I think that it is great wedding shows are having same sex couples. I think Chris looks very handsome, and I hope that wedding shows continue to support gay marriages. as for the westwood reporter who didn't even go to the show, well girl you better work if you want to comment on things, not just sit back and send out your assistant!

Trish
Trish

After years of struggle I think gay weddings are the best! They have overcome more than most hetero couples have to endure and with a snotty comment from you, it just shows that youre just as ignorant as most are these days... shame on you and shame on westword for the comments you made... sorry.. but true.

Franticfrannie
Franticfrannie

Hannah, you should be ashamed. No self-respecting journalist would write even a cheesy blog piece without actually GOING to the event they're writing about.

And then to dismiss it like you did? Horrible. Back to J School for you.

Andy Szekeres
Andy Szekeres

I agree 100% Chris. This is a total joke, the Westword should have known better. Epic Fail

Chris
Chris

It took real courage for Wedding organizers to include a same-sex couple. They risked losing money and risked a boycott. All Westword can muster is a snide and dismissive comment about being boring? The reporter wasn't there, didn't interview the gay and lesbian couples, and didn't photograph the ceremony. For those who've endured a lifetime of being called "fag," this show was big step for Denver, matched only by the misstep of Westword's lame ass attitude.

tim davids
tim davids

I'm angry that I can't "like" my own comment.

Franticfrannie
Franticfrannie

The only one going on here is you, Ethienne. You've posted nine times, changing your opinion again and again.

The point here--that YOU have missed--is that Hannah NEVER WENT TO THE EVENT.

Stephanie
Stephanie

Jake, it is a BlOG...not a THESIS. In this blog Hannah is being very supportive. Equality is the message.

You cannot have it both ways, wanting to be equal, and wanting to be special.

Franticfrannie
Franticfrannie

Um, she wasn't even THERE. How can she write about her experience being "bored" or otherwise?

Ethienne
Ethienne

Now, that's an intelligent comment. If noticed, the not so positive comments, besides lengthy, missed that point ColeC. A lot of verbose in them but not from the sharpest tools in the shed I guess. So in reality, not so positive comments but also not smart comments, so who cares about them.

Ethienne
Ethienne

I couldn't agree with you more Michael. If the goal of the gay community is equality, then the "boring" comment was clever and brilliant, and made the subject of same-sex marriage very familiar and belonging to this world. Get over it Chris Parente, this isn't about you.

Alex Davis14
Alex Davis14

so just announcing to you that Hannah is very far from being a homophobe you inconsiderate asshole. if you knew Hannah the way her friends know her you would she's very supportive of gay rights and was just stating that all weddings are boring.

Ethienne
Ethienne

I don't have nor have ever had an assistant. It'd be awesome if I did.

Ethienne
Ethienne

You're making it sound as if gay is the new African-American, and "it's struggle". There may be as many great same-sex weddings as heterosexual weddings, and as many boring of both. Maybe gay will get the shortest month of the year in the future. February, Gay History Month. Iz wha'er!

Show and Tell Moderator
Show and Tell Moderator

I feel like folks are missing the point here, which is actually pretty pro-gay, it seems to me: that there is really no difference between gay and straight weddings. And weddings are boring.

Sheesh, dudes, equal opportunity isn't necessarily riveting. In fact, maybe it's better if it's just commonplace and unremarkable. After all, isn't that the goal?

alexander
alexander

So well said Chris. I'm still trying to figure out how Hannah Thomas could even make any comment......but then I guess there's osmosis! I'll let Ms. Calhoun know I'm pissed too!

Not Ethienne :o)
Not Ethienne :o)

Oh, thank you then. Because for the longest, I thought the point was to bring gay marriages to the same level of heterosexual marriages, and yes, I missed that.

Stephanie
Stephanie

ColeC nice, you get it....

WestWord why did you edit the original title of the Blog??? Put it back on, it is not your fault if some of your readers are not witty enough to understand how brilliant Hannah's prospective was. Equality at its best, you go Hannah!

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