Five reasons why crowd-funded weddings are tacky
A couple wants a kickass wedding with all the trimmings -- full band with the saxophone player, twenty-tier French cake with custard filling, individually plated sashimi selections, and a photo booth that takes those old-fashioned sepia pictures -- all in an urbane, affected, pastoral setting complete with white ponies. But the lovebirds can't afford it, of course, so where to turn? GoFundMe. Since they're so tied up in their once-in-a-lifetime romance, why not ask ask friends, family, acquaintances and total strangers on the Internet to pay for their special day?
Because it's f*cking tacky as hell, that's why not. This new trend of unbridled nuptial greed reeks worse than leftover chicken cordon bleu. As proof, here are five reasons why crowd-funded weddings are tacky -- no need to send a thank-you note.
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Wedding traditions and etiquette have definitely evolved from the days when parcel-of-land-and-a-cow dowries were the way to go; even the more recent practice of the bride's parents paying for the wedding and the groom's parents picking up the honeymoon expenses has gone the way of the long engagement. People are getting married later now -- often more than once -- after iiving together in already established households. So it makes sense for couples to plan wedding events that reflect their lives -- but they also need to fit their bank accounts. They shouldn't expect their parents to cough up cash, much less their other relatives, friends, associates and social media acquaintances to empty their pockets to treat the happy couple to extravagant parties and trips.
It has always been in poor taste to ask other people to provide expensive luxuries that you don't need, and can't get for yourself. Period.
There has been a rash of stories lately about newlyweds expecting -- and even demanding -- that their wedding guests pay for the privilege of seeing them marry by giving specific gifts, gift cards or cash. Some want to make sure that the costs involved with the wedding are even-Steven, and some even want loot left over for the honeymoon. Either way, they're transforming honored guests into paying customers.
Asking wedding guests to defray the costs of the festivities is tacky, and turns what should be a celebration into a pay-per-view event.
It is polite but optional to buy a wedding gift. It's also polite but optional to give newlyweds a gift card, cash or a check instead of a gift. So it's impolite to the point of unabashed rudeness for couples to demand gifts, demand money -- and take issue with wedding guests who do not ante up. A wedding ceremony and reception are ostensibly for the bride, groom, family and friends to celebrate; guests are there to show their support.
Wedding invitations aren't supposed to be considered invoices.